Plenty of people have questioned how Kolin & I left everything (and everyone) we knew to go live on our own, especially at our age. We ventured out into the vast world of the unknown & took our chances.
To this day I get asked, “How did you know it was time to leave? Was it hard leaving everyone behind? How did you do it?”
Honestly, that was the easiest part of the whole transition. That’s what we were wanting, to live somewhere where no one knew who we were. We became nobodies, anonymous, no identity. It was beautiful, not having a label attached to us meant that we could be whoever we wanted to be, which was our true selves.
I believe people like to stay in the same area they grew up in for a number of reasons. Of course, the familiarity with your surroundings and the people you’ve known since birth brings great comfort. And we like to be comfortable. Unfortunately, people fall in the trap of hierarchy starting in school, and it’s hard to leave. It explains why many new college students become depressed or homesick during their first year. Maybe you went from being the beloved, well-known person at your school/social group – to a nobody with thousands of others, sifting through the hallways, not taking a single glance your way. This topic connects with my last post about Ego; when you’re in a hierarchy, you are prone to constantly trying to live up to other people’s measures. It makes it difficult to discover your inner-self and explore new paths. Sadly, people can have a hard time leaving due to their social status of where they currently are. They’re popular, everyone knows them, everyone likes them. But if you keep trying to please everyone, your spirit will be burnt out, and you’ll be left empty.
Step out of the hierarchy and stroll down the unbeaten path of self-discovery. It won’t happen in a week, it’ll take time, effort, and seclusion. You’ll lose a lot of your weekend-social buddies, but those you have a deep connection with will stay with you all along the way. Those are the people who matter the most.
What Kolin & I did was like a reset button, it was the best thing that could’ve happened to us. We went from partying every weekend, to secluding ourselves in our apartment, not knowing what else to do. We didn’t want to be a part of that crowd anymore, but felt guilty for not being social. Turns out it wasn’t us being unsocial, it was us being surrounded with the wrong crowd. So, we dove head first into self-discovery and realized what was important in life: meaningful relationships and adventures. We left the state of comfort and have been feeding our souls more and more every day.
Take a leap into the unknown. What you’ll find is something much deeper than what you thought you were searching for.
until next time,