“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu
Life is going swimmingly. You feel like everything is happening the way it should, good things have been coming your way, and then – bam. You feel like the universe just slapped you in the face and told ya to turn back around.
There is a point in everyone’s life where something unexpected happens and we feel like we’ve been blocked from the path we needed to be on. You try to go for something and it doesn’t work out like you thought it would. Now what? Although the natural reaction may be to drown in your sorrows about how life is unfair, instead, take the challenge of going down a new path of infinite possibilities. You are free. You have not been limited, you have been opened up to more. Use this experience as a building block toward your goal. Your mindset is the only thing that is keeping you from the pursuit of your dream.
As Eckhart Tolle once said, “The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it…Separate your thoughts from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is. Change your perspective and you change your situation.”
Something that has been helping me when things aren’t going as planned is meditating. Hear me out, you don’t need to sit with your legs crossed for 30 minutes listening to mystical music, trying to affirm yourself that you’re ‘meditating’. Meditating can be in many forms, as long as you are focused on the present and not having your mind wander about the million things going on in your life. Go for a walk by yourself, sit comfortably in silence in your home, or even quietly do the dishes. Whether it’s five minutes or 20, letting your mind rest, ridding the ego, and realigning your priorities can help tremendously. Thoughts will flow in – just let them flow right back out. Focus on your breath, or the task you are doing (if walking, or doing dishes). I have learned more about myself from meditating than anything else. I have learned what my mind has been focusing on the past few days, how important is it to me, and how these situations in my life are affecting my well-being. It offers me the alignment and motivation to work on myself to improve my life. Meditation rids the ego and the feelings that come with situations. With no ego, there is no “This isn’t fair!” feelings. There is however, ideas and determination to find other ways to fulfill the life you crave.
There is a reason for everything happening. Every experience you are having is an experience that will evolve you into the person you eventually need to become. Embrace it as a challenge and a period for growth as a human being. Life will happen how it wants to happen, it is your perspective on it and what you can do to get past this moment and towards a direction that will let you flourish.
I know right now you’re thinking life isn’t fair. I know it seems like nothing is going right and you feel at a loss. I hope you realize what is happening is something you can handle. And I hope you realize this experience is needed to shape you into who you are trying to become. Embrace this moment, for when you get back up and life is treating you well, you can look back at this brief moment of time and realize how silly it is to not trust the universe and the mysterious, but magical way it works.
until next time,